Created by Ronald Blue Trust

Financial Intimacy

Financial Intimacy
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Ronald Blue Trust shares some critical, often overlooked, counsel on money and relationshipsderived directly from many conversations with clients. Included in this article are relational questions to help you explore and discuss your and your spouses motivations around money.


Has this been you? A familiar young man calls you to see if he can buy you coffee and ask you a question. You know that it is the question. A week later your daughter walks in, diamond first, and announces she is engaged. While she excitedly relays the details of the ask, you mentally compile all of the lessons, experiences, and insights on marriage youve always wanted to pass along. What do you share about money? What do you wish you had known before slipping on the ring? Perhaps even after many years of marriage, youre still learning money lessons yourself.

Awareness around your finances and how you like to personally handle money is helpful in relationships. With understanding comes empathy, and empathy builds intimacy. Intimacy is the magic that holds a relationship together, and how you handle your finances plays an important role in any relationship.

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