Conflict in a church office can begin a variety of ways: an employee learns what a colleague earns and becomes jealous; one person gets a promotion over another; a subordinate continually makes insulting jokes and jabs, undermining morale.
What should we do when this happens? Here are some typical steps to consider when conflict happens in your office:
1. Acknowledge the conflict: By saying, "Yes, this is a conflict," you have identified it and can now contain it. Ken Sande from Peacemaker Ministries suggests the "Three-Day Rule." Many conflicts are minor and can be overlooked. But, if after three days you are still feeling angry, hurt, or insulted, then you need to resolve the conflict.
2. Get the log out of your own eye: Conflict is often seen in the Bible, so we shouldn't be surprised to get great advice there as well. Jesus asked:
Why do you look at the speck of sawdust ...